By - Consistent-Algae-230
So you treated you current gf as a second option and now youre wondering why shes feeling this way? I wouldn't stay with you either.
I think u are a bit confused but nvm
You told her flat out she was a 6 and your crush was a 10.. then when things faded with the crush, you decided to go out with your current gf. That's almost the definition of "second option".
Now since the crush came back, she's insecure and has a right to be; because for all she knows you still feel the same way. You may have blocked your crush but that doesn't change the fact that you just settled for your current gf.
That’s not the thing she was never an second option . Many Things happened between us before we eventually got into a relationship . I
Yikes idk that’s the kind of thing that will never be gone from her mind. You crushed her self esteem once already and she knows how you see her as “less” in rating. You also didn’t once mention correcting her and telling her you had changed your mind and she was a 10 to you. She also knows she was the second option to begin with. You need to reassure her and put all your effort into your girlfriend, surprise flowers just because or lots of date nights or cooking for her or whatever it is that makes her feel special. Also class? Like in college or high school?
Is there anyway you could switch classes? I’m not saying you should necessarily have to but it might be a show of good faith type move
I have stopped going to those classes in which that girl is there as I don’t really need those classes as well but i have to Appear in Test and the thing is that girl will sit right next to me as of our role numbers
Hm idk, I think intense reassurance is the way to go
You both are too young for this and it's very clear that both are not mature enough for a relationship. The guy had a crush in her friend, and just when he decided (yes, decided) that the crush was not worth it, he started a relationship with the other, crazy af. You called your girlfriend a 6 once and she still remembers and is hurted about it, this is going to still bring problems to the relationship because she doesn't know how to get over it. This is gonna happen again again until she tries to fix it.
If you want that relationship to work after smashing her self esteem like that best move would be to cut contact with the first girl. Get her out of the equation completely and don't say dumb shit like that again and with time things may mend. If your kicking it with a friend group and this old crush is still apart of it I'm 100% your gf should leave you for mental health. Imagine if the situation were reversed and how you would feel with your gf kicking it with some hot guy who they once rated higher than yourself. I'm not even one of those people who thing people can't be friends with opposite sex just history here is toxic so you need to figure out what you value more and choose.